My Best SHIFT

S5:E9: The Audacity of Self-Worth (with Randi B.)

• Hosted By: Chantée Christian • Season 5 • Episode 9

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What if the boldest move you could make was believing you’re already enough?

In this powerful episode, Chantée Christian sits down with Randi B.—truth-teller, speaker, and unapologetic rogue in the DEI space—to explore the revolutionary act of radical self-worth. After 24 years in change management, Randi walked away from corporate conformity and created Truthing, a platform rooted in authenticity over approval.

Together, they unpack the emotional toll of being Black women in traditional workplaces, the hard-earned freedom of entrepreneurship, and the uncomfortable truth about why so many of us struggle to celebrate ourselves. From pricing your services to loving yourself out loud, this conversation is a mirror and a permission slip.

Randi doesn’t hold back—and neither should you.

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Chantée Christian:

Welcome to the My Best Shift podcast. I'm your host, Chantée Christian. In today's episode, I'll be talking about embracing self-worth and the power of authenticity with Randi B. Hi Randi, how you doing today.

Randi B.:

I am doing pretty well. Thank you for having me, lady. Good to talk to you.

Chantée Christian:

Yes, it's so good to see you. So before we get too deep into our conversation today, why don't you tell the people a little bit about yourself?

Randi B.:

That's always a tough question. It's why it's so hard to talk about ourselves, right Always.

Chantée Christian:

It's the one question that always stops people.

Randi B.:

Right, my name is Randi B., or Randi Bryant. I am a former DEI person, diversity, equity and inclusion person. I have owned a change management company for 24 years. Recently I have gone rogue and have spent more time just talking directly and candidly about issues that before I used to tiptoe around because I didn't want to offend people or you know, the truth is hard. So the center of my platform is called Truthy. I'm all about truth and telling your truth, living your truth, listening to the truth of others. I believe that's the only way we make change. That's me, I mean. I don't know what else to say. I'm a Sagittarius. I like traveling.

Chantée Christian:

It feels like a dating profile.

Randi B.:

I'm 5'7, with brown eyes.

Chantée Christian:

So I met you at an event where you were talking about what it looked like and what it felt like to own a business as a Black woman and be a change agent. There's so much of this life that we have been living and so much literal change that is happening, what feels like every day, and I'm curious like how do you sustain?

Randi B.:

Wine. Oh no, I'm sorry, oh sorry, you're looking for both of that. I believe that the typical workforce has made it difficult, particularly for Black women, to function and also be happy not to, like DMX say. You know y'all gonna make me lose my mind up in here. I think it's literally almost a hostile place for us to be most places, and so we have decided to create spaces of our own, and once you feel the level of peace that comes with that and by peace that doesn't mean you're not working ungodly hours, you are not crying, staying up all night, wondering how you're going to pay bills, like all of that exists.

Randi B.:

I don't want to glamorize being an entrepreneur, but just the peace of not having to deal with the microaggressions piece of not having to deal with the microaggressions, the macroaggressions, just the feeling that if you work your butt off, if you work hard enough, you can actually accomplish some things, whereas I believe that we became discouraged in typical workplaces where we felt as if, regardless of how hard we worked, we could not get to where we deserve to be, and so I managed it.

Randi B.:

One just the fear of having to go back to a traditional place. So fear of that helps Walking in my purpose. I'm absolutely doing what I feel that I should be doing, even though sometimes I don't want to do it because it's difficult and challenging. And sometimes I'm asking you know, god and I have some frank conversations, so I'm like, okay, let's talk about this again. So what you're saying is, this is what I'm supposed to be doing, like I'm getting this feeling, but you're not making it easy for me. I thought if I did what I was so called to do, then it would be easy. And no, that's not it.

Chantée Christian:

My God, if I had a white towel. Oh my God, my God, if I had a white towel, I'd throw it at you.

Randi B.:

Sorry, go ahead Surrounding yourself with the right people. You will lose people along your journey. Yeah, having people that support you. You know there's always memes that talk about those people that say, oh, your little job, your little company, you're trying to do your little hobby and put you down. You know they don't validate what you're doing and you need validation because it is scary.

Randi B.:

It's scary to be out here by yourself and being judged on things Protecting yourself. Because I am so public Most people who have a job in their business you're going to be public, even if it's just on Yelp or something. People are unhappy. So sometimes people there's just on Yelp or something. People are unhappy, so sometimes people there's no day. I don't get nasty things to me. I mean there is no day and so you have to. I'm not necessarily saying build up a tough skin. I'm saying block people, use your resources.

Chantée Christian:

Yeah, absolutely. I love that and I think that it's important to really talk about the debunking of glamorizing entrepreneurship. So it's coming up on four years since I left corporate and became a solopreneur and I thought it was this very rosy, beautiful experience because of all the things that I've seen and that I heard about it. And when I got in it I was like, well, where are the people who gonna do it Me? You know, like who are these people? And I think that it's also I remember for Awareness, put Me On. We had a call and one of the authors said you know, well, it's just a little project. And I saw red because I was like there's nothing little about this and if you're going to surround yourself with people who say that to you, then you need to take a deeper look within yourself to find out why that's resonating with you. Why aren't you upset about?

Randi B.:

it. Yes, that has been a realization I've actually had this past year. I was my own worst advocate, yeah, and I didn't take myself seriously as I should, and so why should I have expected others to take me seriously? I was doing the work, for sure, but I still did not respect myself.

Randi B.:

One of my friends did a retreat a Pilates retreat 17 black women at Maraval Resort, and I was only one of those black women who did one of those in the air obstacle courses that are insane. Of course you did, I did, and they show you the equipment because they want you to trust the equipment. They say do you trust the equipment? Do you trust that We've designed this to keep you safe? Then there's a woman who stands on the ground who manages the ropes and before they allow you to start climbing, you have to answer the question that she asked you do you trust me? And I said yes, and so then I started climbing up the obstacle course and I felt I was going to die and I'm not scared of heights, but I was terrified.

Randi B.:

I finally get to the top before I've done any of the moving across, and there's one of their employees up there and I said I don't know what y'all do in these situations, but you're going to have to get a helicopter to get my black ass down because I'm not doing this, I'm not going down, I'm not going through, I'm not going around. So y'all going to have to I don't know what the protocol is, but figure it out, get me down from this thing, right? So as I was up there, I said, okay, you trust the ropes, the equipment, you trust the people in charge, and I realized I didn't trust myself fully, yeah. So I've been working on that, you know, working on trusting myself, yeah, and learning how to be my biggest advocate. And then that helped me not become so annoyed when the people around me weren't I mean, don't get me wrong, those people still don't need to be around you but I allowed them around me, I think at first because they were echoing how I was feeling on the inside a little bit.

Randi B.:

Oh for sure, yeah, because I'm Black, right, I was raised in a traditional Black family that you got a job and you got benefits and you were happy, that was it.

Randi B.:

So to say oh my God, 20,000 likes on a post. I sound ridiculous and so in my mind I'm like girl that is so embarrassing right.

Chantée Christian:

First of all, let me stop you right now. Okay, that is not embarrassing, but it feels that way when you're used to being raised differently.

Randi B.:

It's supposed to be a bonus.

Chantée Christian:

But, see, I think it's so important to really like tweeze this out a little bit, because to me it feels like one, it's too common in our entire community as Black women, but Black people in general, but two, it's this polarity between being humble and about humility.

Chantée Christian:

We, especially as Black women, are not taught what it actually is, and so of course, it feels embarrassing for you to be like I got 20,000 likes on a post, when really it's a point of excitement because you got 20,000 likes on our post. And when I think about like Christianity and how it all ties in, especially how Black women are raised in spaces and how it is like generational right, because you and I are two different generations and still, and yet it's the same thing that echoes around us. It's like this huge echo chamber. It really grinds my gears because I tell some of my clients this and, like those of you that believe in Jesus and those of you that have ever heard of him, believe it or not, one way or another, you've heard of the existence of said person, the most humble person that ever walked the earth, perfect, and yet you always knew who he was.

Randi B.:

Right.

Chantée Christian:

Right, there was never, not a fact that was told through him.

Randi B.:

Right the point.

Chantée Christian:

Right. He was still humble though, right, and I think that sometimes, when we teach humility, we infuse this ego in it. It's not the ego, it's the facts, and so if we're speaking facts, then the facts are. Ma'am, you got 20,000 likes on a post, right Doing the damn thing.

Randi B.:

But it goes back. It's a full circle moment because just at the beginning, when you said tell us about yourself I think that's why it's difficult to talk about yourself, because you feel almost like you're bragging. It's hard to talk about yourself and it's funny, the post I did get 20,000, actually I think it's double. That was a post I had done about Cardi B and she had said she was a 10. When I tell you people were dogging her like ripping her apart for calling herself a 10. And I told people, I said it really made me scared. I said, because I'm on this journey now in my 50s, still on this journey to love myself and to celebrate myself, and people tell you that's what you should do. But the minute you do, the minute you do, people tear you down. And so I said this quote that I'd heard before that said people love you until you love yourself.

Chantée Christian:

Oh, that's good Right.

Randi B.:

And I said you can't take a compliment, because if someone says, girl, I love that dress, we feel like we have to say, oh, it was on sale, or it's old, or honey, it's so tight on me, are you sure? We can't just say, thank you, I know, girl, I'll wear this tonight. Right yeah, thank you, I know, girl, I'll wear this tonight. Right yeah, because we've been so trained to always put ourselves down, particularly as Black women, because I'll tell you, I have two Black sons. If I say to them, oh, you look really nice today, they'll say I know, right.

Chantée Christian:

Look at that, look at that.

Randi B.:

No, but I didn't teach them that I think testosterone, I'm telling you, I think men have an arrogance. I mean, I call it arrogance, a confidence that most women don't have.

Chantée Christian:

Because we're not taught to, we're not taught to, we're not taught to and we're not celebrated when we do, we're called stuck up.

Randi B.:

She thinks she's cute. Who does she think she is?

Chantée Christian:

Yeah, exactly what happened to Cardi B. She was like I'm a 10. And when?

Randi B.:

someone says who does she think she is? It should be. She thinks she's fantastic, she really loves herself, and is that?

Chantée Christian:

a bad thing. When did loving oneself become a bad thing? Since forever?

Randi B.:

as a woman, as a girl, we've always been taught to play small, yeah, but you have to love yourself. You have to think highly of yourself in order to be an entrepreneur, in order to be a leader, in order to even post, to think that you have something to say, regardless if it's at your job, even if you have a corporate job, but you post. You have to think that you have something to say that people would esteem as valuable. And so we hurt ourselves by blocking the love that we should have for ourselves.

Chantée Christian:

That was good. Say it for the people in the back.

Randi B.:

I'm trying to create this echo chamber in myself. I'm telling you, I've blocked myself worse than anybody else. I am my own worst enemy because of that fear of loving myself. I'm telling you, I've blocked myself worse than anybody else. I am my own worst enemy because of that fear of loving myself. The stigma that's attached to it. It's important that we love ourselves.

Chantée Christian:

No, it is, and I think that there's been so much shame around loving ourselves and taking care of ourselves and even if you just think about it historically right, I always like to take it back. Take it back. It's only been a little over 400 years since we have been in an institution that created a space where we couldn't be loving on ourselves. We had to be protective, we had to fight and we had to be on guard, and then, as the progression of that, we've always and continually still having to be on guard. But now we're taking care of everyone else too, and so there hasn't been a generation yet that's an adult that hasn't had direct impacts of that trickling effect. So of course, we shy away from the spotlight. It wasn't safe, and we are in new times where it still doesn't feel safe at times.

Randi B.:

Oh, I have really paid attention just in the way that they spoke about our former first lady, michelle Obama, and the way they talked about here. This woman is an Ivy League graduate, used to be a former managing partner, which is a tough place to get. A mother of two children who are doing well, a wife, just someone that anyone else would look up to, and they have and continue to tear her down, and so I mean, yes, we should think about 400 years ago, but look, you can look at four hours ago, four days ago, four months ago or months ago.

Randi B.:

We are continuously maligned, and I believe that it's purposeful. I think that there is a whole well, white supremacy is designed to make us feel less than Right, and so you either look at all the features that we hated about ourselves, from our lips to our butt, and how they're now just seen as great because they're not on us. They're being purchased by other people. It's understandable, and so I believe loving yourself is the greatest revolution. They say being yourself is the greatest revolution. Loving yourself, particularly for a black woman, is the greatest revolution, and we need to do it. We're absolutely for our happiness and success. We have to start to believe in ourselves and listen. We do a good job in believing in each other.

Chantée Christian:

Ain't nothing like sisterhood.

Randi B.:

We hype each other up but, we need to do it for ourselves too.

Chantée Christian:

Yeah, and I was actually talking to a client earlier today and we were going through her intentions for 2025 and she just kept saying I'm not fully showing up and I was like, well, what does fully showing up look like for you? And she was saying I post, but I don't post consistently. I share highlights and things that are happening, but not consistently. I don't really listen to my intuition fully, like I'll hear it and be like no, that ain't it Right, like how you were talking about you and God having frank conversations, because a lot of times, walking in our purpose isn't easy. Well, let me rephrase that 95% of the time, walking in your purpose, regardless of what your purpose is, your purpose, regardless of what your purpose is, is not an easy cakewalk.

Randi B.:

No.

Chantée Christian:

Right. I'm constantly reminded that I was chosen for this. I did not pick this Right, and I'll tell anyone that my idea of life was being a partner at PWC by 40. That was it. That's all I wanted to do. I didn't know what was going to happen after that. That's all I wanted to do. I didn't know what was going to happen after that, but that's all I wanted to do. And then life changed. I changed because I wasn't living and walking in my gifts and walking in my purpose, and so when she said that I thought about me, I was like what I don't post consistently?

Randi B.:

But I think that goes back to because I didn't. I just started posting consistently and I get better and better because, again, I wasn't taking myself seriously. And it's hard because you post and you might have not very many people that even look at it, much less like it, and you're like what am I doing? And that's what I mean. You have to believe in yourself so much that you said I'm doing what I'm supposed to be doing. It took a lot for me to take myself seriously and say because I would do it for somebody else. If I were getting paid by a corporation to work on their marketing and I knew I needed to post every day, I bet you I would do it with no problem, regardless of how many likes I got or anything.

Randi B.:

But when it comes to posting for myself, about myself and my feelings and opinions, I didn't. And so it all goes back to believing in ourselves. And so I said I believe in what I'm doing. Or let me tell you something I'm not quite there, but I'm faking it. And since I started faking it and taking myself seriously, I am telling you I saw a change in two weeks. I mean a real change in two weeks, which also helped me to say okay, girl, now you got it. You're taking yourself seriously. The world will mirror that back to you. Now they're taking it.

Chantée Christian:

The world will mirror that back to you. Now they're tickers, yeah, but I had to do it. Yeah, it reminds me of like, because you're being obedient and you're doing what he told you to do. You're seeing the fruits of your labor right Versus you, halfly doing what he asked you to do Correct, and halfly seeing the fruits, yeah, sometimes not even halfly, just like none no fruit.

Randi B.:

It's a dry dead tree.

Chantée Christian:

Listen, that's a preach to myself, okay. So I made a bingo card last year. I made one this year too, but I made a bingo card and on the bingo card I said go viral on one of these crazy ass platforms, just one. Well, I also didn't do half of the things I was supposed to do on the platforms, right? However, I posted one day about me and a friend going hiking on TikTok. That video has almost 20,000 views. I wasn't even in it. I don't remember anything important about it. When I tell you, there were so like over 300 comments. I was like this has nothing to do with my content, and yet this is what was the thing, and I felt bad for all the new followers that came on because I was like that's not the content that I provide.

Randi B.:

Absolutely feel the same way, right? Because the ones that have done well, I think I'd be in my authentic self and I'm like let me just real quick, just tell these people that I didn't like that movie or whatever. And it'll be the one that goes bonkers, yeah, and then the one that I'm being serious like I'll get nothing, but it's okay, yeah, it's okay, yeah.

Chantée Christian:

It's okay. Yeah, that branch of loving yourself is also being consistent with yourself, right, right, like how you were saying, like if it was a nine to five or a job, it would be something that you would do, and so it's like, well, why can't I do that for me? It's a lack of love somewhere.

Randi B.:

I believe that. No, I agree, I know that when I have to show up to a work because I still do a lot of online trainings I've never been late to an online training. But when I show up to my physical training, for my workouts, I have never been on time Because that's for me and it's something I'm working on. But again, I really do believe that it goes back to that love piece.

Chantée Christian:

Yeah, and I think it's just. It's something that we need so much more of and more understanding of the implications of it when we don't Right. Right, because we're talking about it from, like, an entrepreneurship side, but if we look at this from someone who is still working at 9 to 5, and I'm thinking of so many ways that it shows up lack of boundaries, right, yeah, lack of boundaries, like telling people no.

Randi B.:

How do we expect people to respect us if we don't fully respect ourselves? Or even when you think about our romantic lives, how do we expect someone to love us if we truly don't love ourselves? And I believe people can sense it, I believe they can sniff it, they could tell like a dog could like when you have weaknesses and holes that they can like get through Absolutely. And so the journey is the love for ourselves, because it directs everything we do with everybody.

Chantée Christian:

A hundred percent, and it's so important to realize that the people that we like so listening to this book, which I don't even know why I'm listening to it. Well, I mean, I'm about to tell you the title, so that part will be clear, but it's called why You're Not Married Yet, and I'm listening to it and I'm chuckling because I'm thinking about all of the guys that I dated for a certain period of time that I said were the same person.

Randi B.:

Oh yeah.

Chantée Christian:

I'm like, I don't understand, like they have. Well, I'm the common denominator, right.

Chantée Christian:

Right and so it's like, okay, well, it's something about me that's one attracting them right and it's something about me that like something about them that I'm not being honest about. And so when you talk about that lack of love, to me it's like this little pillar of a void that really needs to be filled. But first we got to feel it within ourselves. So when I started doing the work and really exploring, like what the hell is wrong with me and that was not from a judgmental perspective that was like I've got to stop dating the same guy. This shit is terrible. And like something's got to change. I was like, oh, it really was me. Now, that didn't mean that they weren't. You know how they were. However, there was a piece of me that liked some of those things. It was a piece of me that was giving off the energy of I'm not really trying to be in a relationship or I really like being kind of carefree until I didn't right.

Randi B.:

Right.

Chantée Christian:

But it so starts with us.

Randi B.:

People spend a lot of time talking about the people in their lives that suck, Don't get me wrong, that's fun too, Like it's nice to dog over, you know, when you've gone through something bad. But ultimately, the question I always ask my friends is like but we have to talk about why did we choose that person? Yeah, why did we choose that person? Yeah, Right, yeah. And usually I mean I can go on and on about that why did we let that job mistreat us for years? And this is the thing, and this is where I believe Black women. Although we do uplift each other, I do believe that our history and everything we do work from a scarcity mindset.

Randi B.:

Oh for sure, and so I do believe that we will tell each other girl please, you got a good job, they paying you that much and ain't you get benefits? Girl, please, you be crazy to leave that job. Girl, please, your man makes this much and he might be hitting you upside your head and cheating or whatever the thing is. Or maybe he's loyal, kind, wonderful, but he's boring you to death or whatever it is. Yeah, I think that we very much encourage each other to settle in all things, thinking that we're being loving, and I believe I'll never forget this.

Randi B.:

I was living in Marin County, california, which is extraordinarily white, and it's when the money markets crash and I'm hiking with these and oh so my husband is like a corporate attorney and he's like I don't know if I'm gonna have a job Immediately. I'm like shoot, you know we can sell this house. I'm gonna go back and do this. You know I'm up to like I'm doing bake sale, the bar to kids school. We're going to get this money. I'll be in a strong black woman, Right? So the next day I go hiking with these women where their husbands were actually stockbrokers and stuff. They were actually money managers and already lost their jobs, and the women are very much like.

Randi B.:

I don't know what he's going to do, because I told him I have to have my nanny because you know, I have tennis on Thursdays, I have Pilates on Fridays, I volunteer at the library and he needs to figure it out. And I'm like, oh, the expectation, and I'm not saying I still shouldn't be a writer, right? But what you expect, right, what the expectation is. And then I have a similar story. I was in Mykonos, greece, turned out. I didn't know I was there for this, but it was a big party that happens every year, turned out. I didn't know I was there for this, but it was a big party that happens every year. And we're at the speech club, jackie O's speech club, and everybody is a gay man, but me and my friend Terry, another black woman, and her two gay friends. When I tell you, every man and I'm talking about thousands of men was fine, I'm talking about bodies it's a bathing suit I'm talking fine, I'm looking good.

Randi B.:

And it's a bathing suit, I'm talking fine, I'm looking good. And I said, see, the expectations from a gay man to another gay man is I like this kind of body, honey, like I need a body? And I say, and the men, they just know we'll take them. Like, just here, we are feeling ourselves, sometimes trying to look a certain way, and we will have a man who's, let's just say, the body ain't tight, but the expectation they don't feel like they have to reach out to you. They may feel like they have to earn a certain amount, but they don't think about their looks the same way.

Randi B.:

And I was like people do sometimes serve you to your level of expectation. You know expectations and you know expectations. And when we're telling people I'll accept anything, that's exactly what the hell. They give you that part, anything, anything. So that's another thing I've been thinking about. Even with that, I've always tried to be that super nice person when I go to restaurants or stay at hotels. So don't get me wrong, I'm still nice and respectful. But I see how they jump for other people and I'm like I expect good service too, you know.

Chantée Christian:

I'm nice.

Randi B.:

I'm nice about it, don't act inappropriate. But I believe that we need to raise the bar for each other and say, no, baby, you are deserving of that. What do you want that? Of course you should. Of course you should want to make this much, have this much vacation time, this type of benefits and a company car. So I'm going to help you. Look for something Instead of saying, girl, you better be happy with that job.

Chantée Christian:

Yeah, like we do. It's an old mentality, right. It's that mindset of we didn't have it and so now you have it and you've got to hold on to it, right? So scarcity at its best and at its finest. And something that I remember telling someone when I was trying to make my decision on should I leave corporate, shouldn't I leave? Because it really wasn't in my plan to leave.

Chantée Christian:

I remember someone saying, oh my God, you would leave that great job for what? Like that's crazy. And I remember saying to them this isn't your vision. I didn't come to you about whether, if it's because a good job is the reason why I should stay or not, that's not why I should stay. I should stay because I feel like I'm still doing the work, like I'm still being impactful, right, versus feeling like I'm being controlled and doing all these other things. And so I remember also saying I've got to protect my vision, because everyone doesn't have and share in the vision, right.

Chantée Christian:

And because of that, they're projecting their own fears on you, absolutely, and it's in the best. Like they mean well, but like one of my grandmothers used to say, the pathway to hell was paved with good intentions. Like your intentions mean nothing. Because when she said that she was thinking you got a lifestyle, you like to live, you have all of these things Well, she is not wrong. Yes, right, let's be clear.

Chantée Christian:

And that wasn't what I needed in the moment, and it wasn't that I needed somebody to say, oh my God, that's a great idea. I needed somebody to really help me think through the process. Right, because, while I've never been through a divorce, I felt like, after I've been in the workforce for almost 20 years of doing a thing and being identified with this thing, that I was abandoning it and that who was I going to be without it? Right, and so with someone that asks me, who am I, I tell the people a little bit about myself. I struggled so much because I was so used to saying I'm a consultant, I do this, or, especially like in the DMV, what do you do? Right, everybody. I hate that question, but it's always well, what do you do? Who do you work for? And so I was able to quickly rattle it off. But then, when I left, I was like who am I? Right? And then I had to get clear with I'm not any of that stuff. Yes, I do those things, but that's not who I am.

Randi B.:

Mm, hmm.

Chantée Christian:

And through the dating process, because I had also reentered the dating world around the same time. Guys would be like, well, what do you do? And I'd be like do I tell them that I have an award winning podcast and I'm a best selling author? Who am I to this person?

Chantée Christian:

And so I think that, like for me it was when you talked about earlier around community, it was that small group of people that I could trust with my vision and with my heart to be able to be real with me, yes, to be like. You know, every day will be a great day, but you can crunch those numbers how you want to crunch them, you know. If you're ready, go do it. If you're not ready, stay until you feel like you're ready and explore the why you're not ready.

Randi B.:

Right, yeah, I love that and are we ever really ready it's funny when we were talking earlier, I was thinking about again your expectations and how we come to scarcity mindset when I started speaking. Until this day, I do not demand what a lot of speakers ask for and I'll be kind of like, well, whatever you have, like I should just be happy, you know, and it's taken. I have a couple of really good friends. It's like no, you need to charge at least this, so I at least have my minimum. But it has been a struggle and again that goes back to the work I'm doing to love myself, to feel as if I'm deserving, yeah, of the same thing, like particularly in DEI.

Randi B.:

The highest paid DEI speakers are white women who have been in the game, some of them way shorter time than I have, are, you know, published authors on the subject and things like that. But it's like what I was talking about their husbands. They have the expectation they see themselves as worthy and deserving, and so I write that down. I say you are worthy, you are worthy, but it's, it's a process and we need to work on ensuring that the generations, especially me, behind me, even in front of me, because we're still trying of just realizing that we're worthy, because it affects even, like what I'm thinking about my generation and older even going to the doctor advocating for yourself because you are worthy of this person's time and them paying attention and ensuring you're getting a good checkup or whatever. And knowing your worth man, like really knowing your worth is powerful throughout.

Chantée Christian:

Yeah that's powerful. And I remember I had gotten a business coach and he asked me how much did I charge for my speaking engagements? And I told him and I heard aud and I was like hello. He said I fell off my porch because are you kidding me? And I was like no. He was like hold on, hold on, hold on. Let me go pull back up your bio, right? He said, because maybe I'm the one that's mistaken. He said because maybe I'm the one that's mistaken. He was like do you know how many literal letters you have behind your name? I was like I do.

Chantée Christian:

He was like there's no reason why you aren't doing 10 times this number as your base. And I was like no one is paying that type of money. So I go, they are, I go into my, I go into my chat and people are like oh yeah, I don't speak for anything less than a grand. I don't speak for any. And I'm like USD, are we talking about pesos? Because I'm confused Except pesos, hilarious. And so I had to practice saying the number. Yes, because I was so uncomfortable with saying the number, which I'm like. Now, if you ask me for a consulting fee, I don't have no problem saying that number because I had been saying it for so long but I hadn't said my speaker fee or all these things, and so I was just like people paying that.

Randi B.:

Right, where are they Sign me up? Sign me up. But the thing is is, if you knew your worth, it doesn't even matter what people are paying, because people will find your price. Like, yeah, people could buy purses for $20, but there's somebody who said my purse is worth $5,000. Well, and people sure bought them.

Chantée Christian:

Well and buy, and you telling us what do you want to leave the people with?

Randi B.:

Oh, I, think I've been saying it, since I've been running my mouth, that you are worthy.

Randi B.:

You're absolutely worthy and to continuously your number one job should be continuously loving yourself and building up yourself. Loving yourself and building up yourself so you feel as if you're worthy of all the great things that this universe has for you. And I believe that when we feel as if we're worthy, we are better for the people around us. And we talk about spoiling ourselves and taking care of ourselves. And it's so easy to go get our hair done and our nails done, our massages, our buying ourselves something. That's not the work. That is not. That's easy.

Randi B.:

The work is inner and finding all the areas where we're blocked and there are tons, yeah, and just continuously doing the work. Because what I am experiencing now and I'm sad it took me 54 years to get here you know it has been a constant journey as more doors are opening, as I am seeing my worth, as I am walking away from things, as I am in the biggest struggle I've ever had right now, business-wise, where someone hasn't done me right and I've never. This has never happened to me and they've made some threats to me and I don't know why I'm so calm, cause I'm like you can take it, because I'm going to get twice as much later I'll be fine, and I'm only there now because I have worked on myself and I believe in myself more than I did a year ago or five years ago. So that's what I would say, and I know it's harder, particularly for Black women, which is why we should work harder to get it. I love that.

Chantée Christian:

I love that. And how can people find you on these social media platforms and make sure we build up your likes and your following?

Randi B.:

Oh, thank you, I'm Randi B, everybody, and that's with an I R-A-N-D-I-B. So on Facebook, I'm Randi B. On Instagram, I'm Randi underscore, underscore B. On TikTok, I'm the Randi B. I'm moving to fan base TikTok. I'm having trust issues with it right now. I don't know how long or forever or whatever. I'm on all the things, anything. You're on LinkedIn, I'm Randi Bryant. So, whatever, just go on it. I'm even on the red note. Whatever it is, I'm Randi B or something. Just look for.

Chantée Christian:

Randi B and you'll find me. Yes, her SEO works wonders. Oh, it does.

Randi B.:

It does, it does.

Chantée Christian:

And oh, it does, it does, it does, it does. And we will also make sure that all of your handles and all those things are in the show notes.

Randi B.:

Okay, thank you. Oh, and truthing cards. Just real quick Truthing cards for Black people to ask. You know, it's like a game on Amazon. Those are called truthing, so truthing I-N-G on truth. That's also a way you can find me.

Chantée Christian:

And when do they air on the good TV?

Randi B.:

Oh, so right now. My show started about two weeks ago and it is called Truthing on Amazon Prime. If you go to Amazon Prime right now and look up Truthing, you will see me and listen to the show. We have some good topics like can you be pro-Black and only date white people? What does Black mean? Do we hurt ourselves as Black people by trying to assimilate? And it's Black people having these conversations, these honest conversations, and doing some truly.

Chantée Christian:

Mm-hmm, look at that, look at that, y'all she on TV. Y'all she on TV. No, I thank you so so much for always saying yes. You know, I just I truly appreciate not just the work you so so much for always saying yes. You know, I just I truly appreciate not just the work you do, but the re-gifting and reinforcement for the community and I just appreciate you so much and thank you.

Randi B.:

And thank you for seeing me and asking me so I can say yes and providing the opportunities. That validates people and me particularly. So thank you so much.

Chantée Christian:

Thank you I enjoy talking with Randi B about embracing self-worth, living authentically and the powerful journey of self-discovery. Her insights on navigating challenges, building community and unapologetically claiming our worth are truly inspiring. Thank you for joining us and remember to stop doing shit that doesn't serve you. For more information or if you'd like to reach out to us, visit us at mybestshift underscore LLC on Instagram. See you later.